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Divorce with Dignity: Is Mediation Right for Your Family?

Judith Trentman Wilson, Attorney at Law, P.C. Sept. 20, 2019

While couples often assume that filing for divorce will require litigation through the court system, more divorcing partners are looking to separate through the more informal process of mediation. In this unique approach, a neutral, third-party mediator helps individuals to sort out issues, such as property division and child custody, in a way that each can agree on.

In addition to saving time, money and emotional stress, many couples also choose mediation in order to minimize the impact on shared children. While this approach may not be right for everyone, there are many reasons that couples who want to preserve good relations may want to consider this option.

Finding a Financial Way Forward

Saving on court and attorney costs is one of the biggest reasons individuals choose mediation instead of litigation. While every circumstance is different, according to FindLaw, the typical litigated divorce can cost from two to 10 times more than one that is mediated.

Mediators may also connect couples with a neutral financial adviser who can help find an accounting solution that is fair, sustainable for both parties and maximally beneficial for any children involved.

Keeping Lines of Communication Open

The goal of the mediation process should be to find a collaborative, rather than a combative solution, allowing individuals to discuss areas of agreement and disagreement in an informal setting that promotes mutual respect and understanding. Family law mediators often have specific training in conflict resolution and divorce counseling that may help keep communication healthy and productive.

Getting Better Results

The law constrains court orders following a litigated divorce, often resulting in unbalanced outcomes that do not meet the needs or expectations of either party. Couples who choose mediation maintain complete control of important financial and family decisions.

Divorce is an end, but it is also a beginning. For some couples, mediation may be the best way to resolve differences while building a positive foundation for the future.