Communication and Coparenting After Divorce
April 1, 2019
After a divorce, parents in Illinois may want to use online tools to communicate about visitation and other issues involving the children. A physical calendar in each parent’s home could also help them and their children keep track.
Kids may ask their parents about why the divorce happened. Parents should try to answer with honesty but without criticizing the other parent. It’s usually best to encourage the child to have a relationship with the other parent. If there is still a lot of animosity between the parents, they should try to communicate electronically about the child instead of verbally so they have a record of their exchanges. Online tools can facilitate this. Sometimes, parents may have to be at events together to support their children, and they should avoid conflict at these times.
Children should not be in the middle of any parental disagreements or used a conduit for messages back and forth. When it comes to new partners, it’s best to introduce them to the kids only after the relationship is solid. Stepparents should take a role in which they help enforce rules but do not make them. On the flip side of things, parents who may reconcile do not want to raise their children’s hopes. They should wait until the reconciliation is certain to involve them.
Although the schedule for custody and visitation should be created with the best interests of the child in mind, there are a number of different arrangements that may suit a family. Even if only one parent has physical custody, a visitation schedule can be much more generous than only allowing the other parent alternate weekends. Legal counsel could help a parent fight for a fair custody arrangement.